Learning about the issues that occur when dating someone who suffers with ADHD (Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) can help couples avoid issues that put a strain on their relationships. A couple who knows that they need to make improvements in their relationship and are struggling can use this article to move forward in that process.
ADHD Symptoms and Relationships
Understanding the symptoms of ADHD and how they can impact the relationship is the first step to take. People in relationships with adults who have been diagnosed with this disorder should educate themselves on ADHD and read articles such as the following to get a base knowledge: ADHD Symptoms in Adults and Adults with ADD/ADHD.
The symptoms or traits of adults with ADHD that impact intimate relationships are issues with anger, impulsivity, mood instability, erratic behavior, forgetfulness, disorganization, and poor communication skills. Not all adults with this diagnosis have the above symptoms. Usually, it’s a combination of some of these traits.
This could mean the person diagnosed with the disorder could become easily angered and have a difficult time communicating about his or her anger, forget to pick up a few items at the grocery store and deposit money at the bank, lose track of time and show up thirty minutes late to a date. These things can become extremely frustrating for the other partner.
However, the diagnosis of ADHD does not mean that a relationship can not last. “Adults with ADHD tend to be very dynamic, creative and full of energy,” said Dr. Susan Biali who was quoted in the 2009 Everyday Health article “Relationship Challenges.” Dr. Biali recommends that partners of people diagnosed with the disorder educate themselves about ADHD, communicate about the issues that arise, and offer support when needed.
Communicating about Relationship Difficulties
When problems crop up, couples need to consistently communicate about their needs and feelings. The couple should make it a priority to sit down together and discuss the relationship on a regular basis. Set aside thirty minutes every other night after dinner to discuss positives and negatives. Start and end the discussion with positives about the relationship if possible.
Take action steps together. If the partner with ADHD consistently forgets important appointments or impulsively buys items that are not affordable, the couple should discuss how they can work together to solve these issues. If the couple can’t decide how to do this on their own, they should seek professional help.
Professional Help and ADHD
If the couple is in a committed relationship and wants to work on the relationship problems, they should seek outside help. Participating in couples counseling and individual counseling can make a huge difference in a relationship. Many times the break down in an intimate relationship is caused by communication issues and an objective person such as a therapist could help the couple solve these problems with communication.
Coping with a partner who is diagnosed with ADHD takes time and effort. To sustain a healthy relationship, attempt to understand the disorder, communicate about relationship problems, and seek outside help if necessary.
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